I’ve been noticing that people appear to no longer consider that having good manners is important. To me, the definition of manners means how you behave towards others, and whether you behave in a way that shows respect for their feelings, sense of safety and joy of living. I sometimes notice rudeness and disregard from children, but even more disturbing is the projections of anger and judgment from adults towards each other on a day to day basis (such as road rage, eye rolling, and constant judgmental thoughts). You’d think adults would know better and perhaps have more self-awareness and impulse control, right? If adults are behaving this way, no wonder our children are.
For the most part, we are all conditioned to know right from wrong. We learn from a young age that it is not okay to bully others. We are taught to say please and thank you and to treat others as we wish to be treated ourselves. However, these societal expectations tend to be superficial and only on a surface level. Underneath we still project our internal baggage onto others, and exude negative energy through our constant judgments.
Understand that it’s not just the words you speak that affect others, it’s your thoughts, too. We are all picking up on one another energetically and intuitively and reacting to what we are picking up. This includes your inner dialogue about yourself - how you see yourself affects how others will perceive you.
It’s also important to consider that human beings are essentially interconnected energy particles that experience an empathic connection. Whatever anyone else is feeling, we will all feel, whether we are conscious of this fact or not. If one person suffers, all people will suffer. Living in a state of ignorance of this fact, and refusing to consider how your lifestyle, actions, and thoughts may be affecting others does immense damage to human beings and the future of our planet.
Here’s the thing - only you can change this paradigm. Take responsibility for your thoughts and actions. Treat every other human being as you wish to be treated yourself. Have compassion and respect for yourself first, so that you can also learn to generate this energy towards others. You can’t change anyone else, but you can (and must) change yourself.